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Thank you. In no way was I attempting to deceive or hide anything from my wife. It was just my way of handling the bills coming in without stressing her out since she’s under a lot of pressure. We had the discussion, she is very concerned, but is now going to take over 100% of our finances so I can’...

Rent-free? Nice!

Great advice, Richard. Just own up to the whole thing as one big fault on my part, and don’t let either of us get caught up in the minutiae of what is on the card.

Thanks!

Currently undergoing my first real anxiety attack in years! I missed a bill payment, one, for the first time in a long time. Total accident. I have been doing our bills for over a decade. My wife saw this and, in her own way, suggested she take over the paying bills. Now, I have no problem with this...

Richard are you sure you're not a clinical psychologist, because if not you'd make a great one! Your thoughts on how people should look at the past make sense to me. It's a good point; stuff happened, now what do I do now that I recognize it happened. I can make use of that. Thanks! Now I just need ...

Hi Richard. You are 100% correct. I do lack self-confidence. I have a strong self-concept, but my esteem is certainly lacking. I know the origins and have tried to discuss this with several therapists, but I've noticed a trend in the ones I have seen - they don't want to talk about my past, only how...

Woah woah woah. Stop the clock. I'm not discounting everything you said prior (I actually need to re-read and process) but my proverbial ears pricked up when you mentioned "adrenaline". Yes, I notice often that my jaw gets sore a lot for "no reason". And, whenever I'm getting anx...

To cut to the chase, two things that are wrong with me: 1) I can't enjoy myself doing anything. When I'm around people I'm just irritated and can't wait to be alone, so I don't get any enjoyment out of the interaction with others. I used to, allbeit not much, but it wasn't this bad. 2) I have troubl...

Thanks Richard. Quick question as I see you reply a lot on here and, based on your fantastic advice, you seem to know what you're talking about! Do you ever see incidences where people do recognize inequality and step in to help/resolve? Because that is me to-a-t! I guess I just struggle to see why ...

Hi. It's actually the other way around. I'm the husband and I posted this (I didn't clarify that in the post). It's ok though, I get your point. The tough thing I have trouble understanding is how can someone not witness these things, recognize the unfairness or inequality and want to change or at l...

In my house, I do everything besides cooking. I don't mean to sound short, but all house chores are taken care of by me. Everything from dishes to dog poop to laundry, etc. If they weren't, our house would be a wreck. I know this because I used to go on business trips and come back to a disaster. I ...

TL;DR - I get annoyed by extroverted people, can't escape the situation I'm in, and want to learn how to cope. First time, first post. I know I'm depressed, so let me just get that out of the way. I'm on meds and have been to therapy; neither have helped. My issue is that I'm introverted, and after ...