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I have not.
Although I am not sure I could shut my mind 'off' long enough to find peace....

Peacefully enjoying myself, would be a good start

Hello, All- I had a thread, somewhat similar to this, about 4 years ago. But the conversation seemed to focus on the ‘symptom’ rather than the cause and solutions. And I find myself in a very similar place now. Some of that original post is applicable, and communicated better than I can right now, s...

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After a valiant attempt this weekend, I still failed miserably at trying to stay away from socializing at the bar. And in thinking about how I worded my original post I got to thinking that maybe the real question I wanted to ask was: What does the average, single, 40-something, do when not at work....

Well, I prefer to be around others. Many times it's that desire that brings me to the bar- not the alcohol. I have a lot of hobbies/ interests. But most of them are solitary activities, or difficult to organize a group for: Cars Fishing Art Computers Sporting events I have been working on this issue...

hhh79bigo wrote:...May I ask whether you have any kids?

I have two boys - 23 and 19.

The 23 year old is out on his own and the 19 year old may as well be...lol

He's rarely home during the day- either working or doing things with his friends.

Maybe 'normal' wasn't the best choice of words. I just don't remember what life was like before I started spending all my spare time at the bar and avoiding 'life'. So basically, my question is what do folks that don't spend all of their free time at the bar do? It all seems so alien to me anymore.....

PsyChris wrote:... Would they meet up with you somewhere else maybe?

I'm sure they would, but that still would only be avoiding the original issue of getting back to a 'normal' lifestyle....

All it takes is a mere suggestion of doing something other than going home and being responsible and I'm there.....

I know this sounds ridiculous, but I know the basic answer is 'anything but go to the bar'. Thing is, I HATE being alone, with no one to talk to. It's not that I'm afraid of being alone. I just get so bloody bored! I have so many things I could, should, and want to do, but it all feels so strange af...

I have come to a point in my life where I need to change my routine- drastically. For the longest time my daily routine was to get out of work and go directly to the bar for a couple beers with the guys. A couple of beers turns into a couple of hours ending only when I decide I better leave before t...