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When I say obsession, I mean, something that you think about which causes you negative feelings. You don't want people to have negative reactions to you because of your face or whatever you think triggers this, and the idea of this happening makes you feel bad. It's not unusual for someone in your c...

Also, if you can help it do not get plastic surgery. That is basically the ultimate surrender to the power of your obsession. You can love yourself, and to be happy you need to learn to do this. The issue you are experiencing is so far from being something that you should feel bad about and let cont...

Hi there I would like to say a couple things, first about obsession, and then about the thing you're obsessing about. The first thing is the most important, which is the fact that you are obsessing about something to the point that it is causing you a serious amount of grief. Since you wrote on this...

I hate to put a damper on your messianic quest, but I would say that what you are experiencing is almost certainly a delusion. One reason I think this is that I have specifically known a person very much like you, caught up in the same sort of thing. He too allowed himself to get too isolated and di...

I have personal experience with this, as my late dad was sexually abused by a family member when he was a little boy. He had severe PTSD from this and a bunch of other residual psychological problems. That said he was a very kind man and a great dad, but his suffering took a toll on me and my mom. T...

Hi there. I relate to a lot of how you feel, as I felt similarly when I was in my early twenties. I had a dad who had a lot of emotional issues because of how he was raised and in turn the way he behaved while I was being raised cause me a lot of emotional issues when I was in my early adulthood. My...

I strongly relate to much of what is said here, and this past year since my dad died I have been feeling extreme anxiety about my relationship with my girlfriend. Since this time I've gotten some therapy for other issues which aren't directly related to my relationship, and I've realized a few thing...

I think you've gotta go with your gut and instead of focusing so much on what you think you are, just focus on what it is you actually want, like what is it that would make you happy? If you think you're a straight woman for some reason is it because you are interested in guys? Or because you want t...

That was a long read, but very interesting. You write well. There are a few recurring things I've noticed in your post, and, since you are soliciting people's opinions, then here are mine: 1. You are extremely hard on yourself. You seem to hold your entire existence under a microscope. While it is a...

I don't think it makes you troubled or crazy to have the urge to do it, but I don't necessarily think you should follow through on it, as it might make you feel guilty to do it, and it's not a very healthy activity. Physical pain makes you release feel good chemicals and if you're like me and have a...

Also one thing you can do in the short term, which I find helps me when I'm feeling like I'm a bad person for some dumb reason, is to do simple tasks for people. Donate a little bit of money to something, say something nice to someone, offer to help someone, do something selfless but not so huge tha...

I think a big part of your problem is how much you are beating yourself up over feeling these things. Your specific issues with what you are getting turned on by aren't necessarily garden variety, but invasive thoughts (thoughts which you deem as bad but seem to enter your head whether you want them...

There are a few things that I think it is extremely important for you to understand: Being yelled at and called names by your parents is not okay and not normal. Being pulled out of the car by your hair or otherwise physically abused by your parents is not okay and not normal. You are a kid and will...

Of all the strange feelings which we purport as uniquely human sensations, having to be felt to be understood, things like deja vu and schadenfreude, nostalgia is a deep one, and how it affects you can say a lot about your current emotional needs. A normal way to feel about nostalgia is something ak...

Obsession about something is usually a symptom of a deeper problem. That said it is not wrong for you to want things, even material things, if they mean something to you and you feel like you would gain satisfaction from having it. What IS wrong, though, is denying yourself the joy of living right n...